Thirty is for forging; forty is for nurturing | Slow-nurtured life

Don’t push yourself too hard—loving yourself is the start of a lifelong romance…

“Standing on the threshold of turning 40, I suddenly have so much to say to myself.

I used to think ‘fast’ was the right way: rushing for work, rushing for progress, rushing to be a qualified adult. But I forgot—my body can’t keep up.

It started to remind me in small ways—like my skin that breaks out in allergies easily, and my shoulders that always feel heavy…

“I no longer chase some earth-shattering transformation. I just hope that when I’m 50, I can still stand straight, my eyes still shine bright, I can still wear the dresses I like, and I still feel a spark for life. So these past two years, I’ve learned one of the most important words: ‘nurture’.

Nurture my body, nurture my mood, nurture a version of myself that no longer panics.”

So I decided to make “loving myself” something tangible. I decided: **Every day, I’ll set aside a ‘beautiful nurturing moment’ that belongs entirely to me.

Starting from one of my birthdays, I gave myself my first beauty device.

I said to myself then: ‘You’ve worked hard—this is a reward for living well.’

I didn’t expect this to become our gentlest promise. On every memorable day, I’m willing to gift myself one such ‘small tool’.

This hair dryer doesn’t just blow away moisture—it blows away the day’s frustration;

This massage gun loosens my stiff shoulders, like quietly saying ‘let’s make peace’ to all those late nights hunched over my desk;

And this beauty device, ten minutes a day, is the quietest conversation I have with the version of myself in the mirror.

These aren’t just devices,
They’re the little ‘safe havens’ I’ve built for myself. They tell me: no matter how busy the world gets, you always have the right and the corner to catch your breath.

“With this little bit of ritual, we quietly hold onto youth and health a little longer. What we’re guarding isn’t just this face—it’s clearly the little girl in our hearts who longs to be treated well, to be cared for.
Life is certainly worth it. And you and I are both worth being loved this carefully by ourselves.

Finally, I want to say this to myself, and to you who might be just as tired on the other side of the screen:
When you start to truly see and nurture yourself, that calm and radiance will carry you, from the inside out, to a softer, brighter world.

If you understand this feeling too, Then I’m so glad to meet you here. I’m Tina, Let’s turn the rest of our lives into a journey of nurturing ourselves, together.